Plainview-Old Bethpage Central School District

            Humans are social animals. Throughout the life span, we depend upon others for shelter, nurturance, security, survival, commerce, transmission of cultural, religious, and social traditions, and a sense of belonging.  But what is a healthy relationship and how do we recognize when relationships are detrimental to us?

            Healthy relationships promote growth and independence.  Honesty, respect, and trust are present in healthy relationships and they encourage a safe and comforting environment where ideas and responsibilities are shared and each person has a say in what occurs. We enjoy ourselves in relationships when they are healthy and look forward to time together without anxiety or fear.

            In contrast, unhealthy relationships are characterized by dishonesty and unequal decision-making where one partner feels controlled, disrespected and devalued.  Instead of safety, there may be an atmosphere of hostility where one person feels intimidated, put down and may even be physically threatened or abused.  A jealous, controlling partner may expect you to give up other friends or time with family to please them.

             About 1 in 4 teenagers report that they have experienced verbal, physical, emotional, or sexual abuse in a dating relationship each year.

            If you are not sure if a current relationship is healthy or if you want more information, see http://www.cdc.gov/chooserespect